{"id":4350,"date":"2011-06-30T13:11:09","date_gmt":"2011-06-30T20:11:09","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/robertfagan.com\/?p=4350"},"modified":"2011-06-30T13:11:09","modified_gmt":"2011-06-30T20:11:09","slug":"thegiftofacceptance","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/theaposition.com\/robertfagan\/coaching\/4350\/thegiftofacceptance","title":{"rendered":"The Gift of Acceptance"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Would you consider being more accepting of others, to let go?\u00a0 How about becoming more accepting of you?\u00a0 The quality of your life depends on it.\u00a0 It\u2019s really not all that complicated or difficult, though we may constantly tell ourselves otherwise. I continue to run into so many people who refuse to embrace forgiveness and acceptance whether in their personal or professional lives, or even their general outlook on the world and life.\u00a0 When you come right down to it, acceptance is really a gift to yourself.<\/p>\n

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\"\"<\/a>It seems that many folks would rather wallow in the stress, disease, and pain that judgment causes, and then complain about it.\u00a0 They seem more comfortable with the pain of being addicted to their truth than of considering acceptance, of being right rather than being loving.\u00a0 They embrace anger, righteousness, and judgment, all first cousins of fear.\u00a0 Could that be you?\u00a0 I know it has been me from time to time.<\/p>\n

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We have invested many years in our different judgments and have the power of many institutions, parents, and others to support us so that our judgments have become our core beliefs.\u00a0 However, when we realize that these judgments are our self-limiting beliefs based in fear, we open ourselves up to the possibility of a liberating awakening.<\/p>\n

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\"\"<\/a>Do some people really irritate you or press your buttons in a very harmful, hurtful way?\u00a0 Most of us have those people in our lives.\u00a0 A refreshingly new tactic would be to simply accept them.\u00a0 Find the element that is making you crazy and see if you don\u2019t already exhibit those traits yourself.\u00a0 You might have to dig deep to uncover them.\u00a0 Maybe they don\u2019t manifest itself in the same way, but they are probably there.\u00a0 When you become truly aware and realize that we are all more alike than we really imagine, we can more easily accept others.<\/p>\n

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When you judge others, you take yourself away from your best self and that causes pain.\u00a0 Embracing fear as opposed to love, you are out of alignment.\u00a0 Any focus on that will create more unpleasant, unintended results.\u00a0 Judgment and fear become a vicious cycle and we dig ourselves deeper into a hole of pain.\u00a0 The good news is there is a solution and it can be a quick fix at that.<\/p>\n

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\"\"<\/a>Make a new decision and a new choice as opposed to the old reflex action of becoming angry, hurt, and vengeful.\u00a0 You can and should still have a voice and your own boundaries of acceptability, but your new response will be acceptance for what is.\u00a0 Other\u2019s hurtful actions don\u2019t need to have an accompanying judgment, which follows with anger, madness, and frustration.\u00a0 Why not just accept them?\u00a0 That doesn\u2019t mean that you approve them.<\/p>\n

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We all have our little pockets of judgment; I know I do, but when I can identify them and shine the light of acceptance upon them, they instantly vanish.\u00a0 It\u2019s very liberating and the more we practice acceptance, the easier it becomes.<\/p>\n

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Now stop for a moment.\u00a0 Imagine the gift of example you will bequeath your family and friends as they see you quickly, yes quickly transform from your former self into this new loving person.\u00a0 You are meant to shine your light while you are here, not to enforce judgments or hold onto old fears.\u00a0 Must you continue to be that old leaded lightshade that restricts all light and happiness, and prohibits all growth?\u00a0 Your growth can and will be an inspiration to others, and you have no idea how far it might spread \u2013 generations perhaps.<\/p>\n

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\"\"<\/a>When we can grow into a state of awareness of everything and everyone for whom they are, we begin to breathe a sweeter, purer air and to freely enjoy life \u2013 becoming more in alignment with our best and highest self.\u00a0\u00a0 Realize that everyone is simply pursuing part of their perfect path through life, they are moving through life with the best awareness that they have at the time.\u00a0 And accept your anger if they have hurt or interfered with your path, but release the need to be hurt or to be right.<\/p>\n

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When the pain becomes great enough, some of us will decide to gift ourselves forgiveness, as all forgiveness is essentially self-forgiveness.\u00a0 Poof, the pain and hurt will vanish instantly.\u00a0 Then add to that, the gift of acceptance.\u00a0 It\u2019s your decision and it always has been.\u00a0 You create the world you live in.\u00a0 And the beautiful thing is that it is never too late to change, to finish strong.\u00a0 It\u2019s exciting to reinvent yourself and take in the gift of acceptance!<\/p>\n

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So what or whom might you be willing to accept right this moment?<\/p>\n

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\"\"<\/a>“The Leader’s Coach – Bob Fagan”<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

“Helping You Become Your Own Best Coach”
\n<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Bob Fagan coaches leaders, athletes, and general folks to higher levels of performance and fulfillment.\u00a0 He can be reached at rsf4653@aol.com.
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