{"id":5791,"date":"2011-10-20T08:34:33","date_gmt":"2011-10-20T15:34:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/robertfagan.com\/?p=5791"},"modified":"2011-10-20T08:34:33","modified_gmt":"2011-10-20T15:34:33","slug":"love-attracting-the-wrong-type-of-partner","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/theaposition.com\/robertfagan\/coaching\/5791\/love-attracting-the-wrong-type-of-partner","title":{"rendered":"Love: Attracting the Wrong Type of Partner?"},"content":{"rendered":"\"\"<\/a>\n

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Are you hoping to meet a wonderful man or woman, but you keep attracting the wrong type of person?\u00a0 Do you constantly meet men or women who are emotionally unavailable?\u00a0 This issue keeps coming up with many who are seeking new relationships.<\/p>\n

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Perhaps you have finished a relationship through divorce, death, or a simple parting.\u00a0 You may have even done a lot of introspective work identifying the characteristics you want in a partner.\u00a0 Yet you wonder why you keep meeting exciting people or good matches, but they are simply not available for a variety of reasons.\u00a0 You may be getting frustrated.\u00a0 What\u2019s up?<\/p>\n

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We attract that which we ourselves put out.\u00a0 I would venture to say that the reason that you are not attracting the right person is because you, yourself, are not ready.\u00a0 Check out \u201cthe mirror\u201d because the answer may be right there \u2013 the fear of intimacy.<\/p>\n

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You may even be saying you\u2019re ready and ever so frustrated with your results, but deep down you are more likely coming from a position of fear and not ready to open yourself up, to be intimate with another.\u00a0 The result is that is you are attracting essentially the same type of person you are.<\/p>\n

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I\u2019ve lived this very scenario myself multiple times and have witnessed it hundreds of times in others I coach.\u00a0 Here\u2019s what I suggest.<\/p>\n

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Find a quiet place each day for yourself for ten minutes.\u00a0 Breathe, quiet yourself, and connect with your loving heart place.\u00a0 Discover who YOU really are.\u00a0 There will be some of you who cast this off as nonsense for maybe you actually are afraid or uncomfortable of being alone and intimate with yourself.\u00a0 Maybe you want a quick solution.\u00a0 Sorry, do it anyway and put aside your judgment.\u00a0 If you hear your mind chattering, allow it, but continue.\u00a0 Do it every day.<\/p>\n

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It can be difficult for us to stop and see who we truly are \u2013 a step in our growth journey.\u00a0 I predict that you will begin to discover that you are uniquely wonderful and most likely more powerful than you have ever imagined.\u00a0 And if you discover unpleasant things about yourself, forgive yourself and decide if you want to grow and change.\u00a0 As you continue this journey that can take weeks or months, you will be sending out the very vibes to attract others on a similar journey or energy.\u00a0 In essence, become the person you want to attract. <\/em><\/p>\n

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Be patient with yourself and this process.\u00a0 This is not a quick-fix though sometimes the results can surprise us.\u00a0 Only once you become honest and open with yourself can you expect that you will attract others who are the same and \u201cavailable.\u201d\u00a0 So don\u2019t blame others; the Universe is offering us a mirror in which to help us become our best selves, and in the process send out the frequencies that will indeed attract the people that truly resonate with us.<\/p>\n

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As always, enjoy the journey!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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