{"id":6012,"date":"2011-11-02T22:23:22","date_gmt":"2011-11-03T05:23:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/robertfagan.com\/?p=6012"},"modified":"2025-03-19T08:42:03","modified_gmt":"2025-03-19T15:42:03","slug":"a-better-life-beliefs-make-the-difference","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/theaposition.com\/robertfagan\/coaching\/6012\/a-better-life-beliefs-make-the-difference","title":{"rendered":"A Better Life: Beliefs Make The Difference"},"content":{"rendered":"\"\"<\/a>\n

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You may think that this is a golf lesson, but it\u2019s not – it’s really much more than that.\u00a0 What you choose to believe for whatever your reasons really determines your life\u2019s quality, direction, and outcome.\u00a0 If you are struggling in some area of your life, rejoice.\u00a0 Rejoice because it is a signal that you can ALWAYS modify your beliefs and your feelings will signal you where to begin.<\/p>\n

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Do you want to know a secret?\u00a0 Most of your beliefs are truly not your own.\u00a0 You bought into your parent\u2019s beliefs and their parents as well as your and\u00a0 their teachers and authority figures.\u00a0 Chances are that only 5% of your beliefs are truly entirely yours (yes, there are exceptions).\u00a0 That is not a good or bad thing, but may illuminate why you always have an opportunity to grow and establish and truly OWN new beliefs.\u00a0 If all parts of your life are working and cause you no pain or angst, don\u2019t change a thing.\u00a0 If they aren\u2019t, the first, best, and last place to look is at your underlying beliefs.<\/p>\n

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Maybe you are sold on your perspective, but here\u2019s a little story.\u00a0 Put me on a beach anywhere and I am quite certain that the earth is flat.\u00a0 Put me high up into space where I can begin to observe the curvature of the earth and I begin to alter my view.\u00a0 Put me on the moon, I will likely completely change my view.\u00a0 It all depends upon my or our perspective.\u00a0 You see, our perspectives on life are miniscule and sometimes it\u2019s good to draw back and take a broader perspective.<\/p>\n

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I have recently worked with two PGA TOUR winners.\u00a0 Both of these young men are very similar in so many appearances, but their stories are becoming dramatically different.\u00a0 Both are about the same age.\u00a0 Both are among the top 10% in PGA TOUR driving distance, both are healthy and very athletic, and both are very friendly personable sorts.\u00a0 Each is immensely coordinated and talented to play golf among the best ever, yet neither was a prodigy.\u00a0 Each also has a support team of multiple \u201cexperts\u201d (swing, mental, diet, course management, financial, travel\/logistics, business, etc.) dedicated to helping them.\u00a0 One man has been within the Top 15 in the World for the past couple of years and is known to most golfers while the other is playing himself right out of \u201cmajor league\u201d professional golf.<\/p>\n

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\"\"<\/a>So, what’s the difference between the two.\u00a0 The only<\/em> real difference between the two is their beliefs.\u00a0 It became extremely obvious to me.\u00a0 On the surface, both are positive, yet at an underlying level, our struggling player sabotages himself while our rising star forgives himself and others, and has a light inquisitive attitude and sponges everything he can, while still believing in himself and his goals.\u00a0 Most important is what our struggling player believes.\u00a0 While he believes he is a very talented player, he believes that golf is a struggle.\u00a0 He is pretty fixed on his beliefs, a rather opinionated individual, and he\u2019s proud of his accomplishments and ready to vigorously defend his positions.\u00a0 He\u2019s not nearly as open-minded and plays with underlying fear.\u00a0 He believed a well-known sports psychologist would help him.\u00a0 That failed miserably as he went from winning to not being able to make cuts.\u00a0 He knows pretty much everything about most everything; he’s very opinionated, yet in a nice engaging way.\u00a0 The truth is that his cup so too full for anyone to add to it and help him.<\/p>\n

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Who\u2019s is right and wrong between the two golf professionals?\u00a0 I would say neither.\u00a0 It\u2019s more about the issue of what\u2019s is working and what isn\u2019t.\u00a0 Our struggling professional is on a journey that is causing him increasing pain and frustration.\u00a0 He is definitely out of alignment with his best self.\u00a0 He loves his sport, but not himself or others.\u00a0 While he’s charmingly personable, he\u2019s not very forgiving and he\u2019s quick to judge others, but most of all himself.\u00a0 The other golf professional is joyful to watch, observe, and listen to.\u00a0 His beliefs are just as strong, but he is more keenly aware of himself and his surroundings.\u00a0 His awareness is keener as is his willingness to consider other points of view.\u00a0 When something isn\u2019t working, he won\u2019t quit, but he will modify his tactics and beliefs.\u00a0 When our struggling pro’s journey becomes too painful, he will either quit in failure or he will indeed change his beliefs.<\/p>\n

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You see in golf as in life, it\u2019s not all about our swing, our mental tactics, or our upbringing.\u00a0 Our path is more influenced about how we perceive ourselves and others, and how willing we are to change whatever beliefs at whatever level.\u00a0 It could be as instantaneous as how far we are hitting the ball in the last thirty minutes to a core belief value, but it all goes back to the issue of beliefs.<\/p>\n

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It matters little if you play golf.\u00a0 The question you should be asking yourself as you examine your beliefs on or off the golf course is \u201cAre my beliefs and actions grounded in love and joy, or conversely in fear, judgment, scarcity, anger, and the like and are they working for or against me?”\u00a0 When you become more aware of your beliefs and affect changes in them toward a love-based initiative, your results will become aligned toward your \u201cbest self\u201d and over time you will derive more intended results.<\/p>\n

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\u201cEnjoy the journey and remember that it is never too late to finish strong!\u201d<\/p>\n

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Bob Fagan is a Management Consultant and Coach to executives, athletes, and general folk.\u00a0 He can be reached via rsf4653@aol.com.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

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