{"id":7135,"date":"2012-02-14T14:50:06","date_gmt":"2012-02-14T21:50:06","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/robertfagan.com\/?p=7135"},"modified":"2012-02-14T14:50:06","modified_gmt":"2012-02-14T21:50:06","slug":"are-you-a-good-friend-nine-questions-to-ask-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/theaposition.com\/robertfagan\/coaching\/life-coaching\/7135\/are-you-a-good-friend-nine-questions-to-ask-yourself","title":{"rendered":"Are You a Good Friend? Nine Questions to Ask Yourself"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Lifting up a friend can be very strenuous, but one of life’s best exercises and rewards!<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

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One of the most admirable and endearing qualities of my late father, Harry Fagan, was that he was one of the best friends a person could have.\u00a0 I aspire to be so good. \u00a0Thinking about him, it dawned upon me that there are a few key questions we can ask ourselves to see how we stand up in this area.\u00a0 Adjustments are self-explanatory and relatively easy to affect.\u00a0 So how do you stand up?\u00a0 And for some added fun, how would your friends comment about you?<\/p>\n

1. \u00a0 Are you there for them?\u00a0 In good times or bad, early or late, and at inconvenient times, are to there to answer their call?<\/p>\n

2. \u00a0 Do you communicate with your friends?\u00a0 In today\u2019s world of texting, phone, social media, and yes, letters, do you keep in touch?<\/p>\n

3. \u00a0 Do you speak well of your friends or at worst, nothing at all?\u00a0 This was something that my father always not only preached, but most definitely practiced \u2013 all the time.\u00a0 Do you?<\/p>\n

4. \u00a0 Do you avoid competing with your friends?\u00a0 Friendship is not about competition, but collaboration, communication, and cooperation.\u00a0 It avoids envy and jealousy whereby you celebrate your differences and each other\u2019s successes.<\/p>\n

5. \u00a0 Are you trustworthy?\u00a0 Can your friends safely confide with you know that anything in confidence will stay in confidence?<\/p>\n

6. \u00a0 Are you a great listener?\u00a0 Do you offer a good listening ear that is more focused upon their needs as opposed to yours? \u00a0Or are you more interested in telling them your story and needs?<\/p>\n

7. \u00a0 Do you thank them?\u00a0 How often? \u00a0In what ways? \u00a0When was the last time you tried something different?<\/p>\n

8. \u00a0 Are you honest with them?\u00a0 Can you offer truly constructive feedback as opposed to concealed destructive input?<\/p>\n

9. \u00a0 Are you a great friend?\u00a0 If you answered more yes\u2019s than no\u2019s you are doing pretty well, but how about striving to get all \u201cyes\u2019s\u201d and becoming a \u201cgreat friend?\u201d<\/p>\n

And it’s been often said that in order to get friends, first you must be one!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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