{"id":7334,"date":"2012-03-01T18:43:10","date_gmt":"2012-03-02T01:43:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/robertfagan.com\/?p=7334"},"modified":"2023-04-25T12:04:49","modified_gmt":"2023-04-25T19:04:49","slug":"about-falling-in-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/theaposition.com\/robertfagan\/coaching\/7334\/about-falling-in-love","title":{"rendered":"About Falling in Love\u2026"},"content":{"rendered":"\"\"<\/a>\n

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Are you frustrated by love, how to get it and what to do with it when you do?\u00a0 Or maybe you had it and lost it?\u00a0 Join the crowd. It\u2019s maybe the most written about topic on the planet so why shouldn\u2019t I join the fray?<\/p>\n

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Do you choose love or does love choose you?\u00a0 I tend to believe the latter.\u00a0 All you can do is to accept it when it knocks and cherish it for one of life\u2019s delicious moments.\u00a0 We never really own anything and that includes love.\u00a0 The more we try to control, manage, seek and manipulate it, the more it slips through our grasp.<\/p>\n

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Love has its own time, its own season, and who are we to know its comings or goings.\u00a0 Sometimes death robs us of love and at other times its no more than a shift of energy.\u00a0 Our ego always wants to know why.\u00a0 We want answers when there are none.\u00a0 Perhaps it is to assign blame, to create a story, or to simply try to circumvent the pain of loss.\u00a0 Was something wrong with me or was it my partner?\u00a0 Was it circumstantial?\u00a0 Getting lost in those kind of details is like swimming in a sea of misery; sooner or later you will give up and drown in unhappiness and despair.<\/p>\n

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We hope and pray that when love comes to find a place in our heart that it also rests in our beloved\u2019s heart as well.\u00a0 Often it does not.\u00a0 Love cannot be forced or recovered under pressure.<\/p>\n

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How we treat ourselves inevitably surfaces in sending the identical vibrations out into the world.\u00a0 Being loving, gentle, and forgiving with ourselves starts as a good basis for attracting the same in others.\u00a0 Just the other day, a woman shared with me that in order for her to find someone to love and take care of her (her goal), she first had to do that for her man.\u00a0 How wise.\u00a0 Just like to make a friend, first we must be a friend.<\/p>\n

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Love is more than common interests, values, and attractions.\u00a0 Like life, it ebbs and flows on its own schedule.\u00a0 It elates and disappoints, but it is always a gift and it is beyond questioning.<\/p>\n

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Perhaps the best way to treat love is with kindness and integrity, and an open palm.\u00a0 If it leaves, rejoice for what it has brought you and if it stays, don\u2019t take it for granted, but always share it with the rest of the world in any way you can.\u00a0 By all means, be grateful that it came to rest with you if for only for a moment.\u00a0 And if your heart remains open, it will certainly circle back to you on its own time.<\/p>\n

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