{"id":8424,"date":"2020-05-20T16:01:33","date_gmt":"2020-05-20T22:01:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/theaposition.com\/tombedell\/?p=8424"},"modified":"2020-12-17T20:34:44","modified_gmt":"2020-12-18T02:34:44","slug":"sometimes-i-feel-like-a-fatherless-child","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/theaposition.com\/tombedell\/golf\/personalities\/8424\/sometimes-i-feel-like-a-fatherless-child","title":{"rendered":"Sometimes I Feel Like a Fatherless Child"},"content":{"rendered":"\"Library<\/a>\n

[As a Library Thing Early Reviewer I’m in the running to be sent books in exchange for a review. It’s a bit of a lottery–you choose one or two books from scores offered each month, and maybe one shows up, or not. This one did.]<\/em><\/p>\n

The last scheduled meeting of our book group was scuttled by the plague among us; too bad, as we had chosen a classic to read and discuss, The Wind in the Willows<\/em> by Kenneth Grahame. Well, there may rarely have been a better shelter-in-place read. It seemed like the central theme of the book was to hasten back into the burrow, build a good fire, eat, and sit in comfy chairs while chatting with friends.<\/p>\n

\"ray<\/a>A slightly different notion of home is at work in Nicca Ray’s\u00a0Ray By Ray: A Daughter’s Take on the Legend of Nicholas Ray<\/em> (Three Rooms Press, $20). It\u2019s not comfy.<\/p>\n

Nicca Ray is the fourth and youngest child of Nicholas Ray, best known as the director of \u201cRebel Without a Cause.\u201d The Internet Movie Data Base credits him with 31 films, including \u201cThey Live By Night,\u201d \u201cIn a Lonely Place,\u201d \u201cJohnny Guitar\u201d and others, particularly from the 1950\u2019s, that made him into a darling of the French New Wave, such as Jean-Luc Godard, who considered him an American auteur: “The cinema is Nicholas Ray.”<\/p>\n

Ray was championed early on by Thornton Wilder, Frank Lloyd Wright, Elia Kazan, John Houseman, Alan Lomax, and he ultimately influenced subsequent generations of directors like Godard, Truffant, Scorcese, Wim Wenders, Jim Jarmusch.<\/p>\n

A cottage industry of books about Ray confirm his talents, realized and wasted. He clearly exuded a charismatic personal charm, and he needed it to have friends willing to put up with his excesses of alcoholism, drug use, bisexual promiscuity. He was married four times and the relationships were complicated, to put it mildly. Suffice it to say that his second wife, actress Gloria Grahame, wound up marrying Tony Ray, Nicholas Ray\u2019s son from his first marriage.<\/p>\n

And there\u2019s a good chance that Tony Ray, Nicca’s half brother, also became sexually involved with Ray\u2019s third wife, Betty Utley, Nicca\u2019s mother. Complicated.<\/p>\n

Nicca certainly touches on the high and low points of her father\u2019s career in this memoir, but it\u2019s from an oblique angle. She didn\u2019t see \u201cRebel Without a Cause\u201d until 1995, when she was 34. (Nick Ray died in 1979 at 67.)<\/p>\n

As far as Nicca was concerned, her father was mostly just missing, having left Betty when Nicca was two. She saw him rarely in subsequent years and his absence gnawed at her.<\/p>\n

\"Nicca<\/a>

Nicca Ray<\/p><\/div>\n

Her mother wasn\u2019t exactly a stabilizing influence, either. Betty Utley was an accomplished dancer who had a decent show business career going before she married Ray and had two daughters with him. She, too, married four times, had some drug issues of her own, and in later life embraced nudism and free love.<\/p>\n

But at least she was there. If her portrait here comes across as a little daffy, she was clearly a loving mother. (The book is dedicated to her.)<\/p>\n

It gives nothing away to say that Nicca is now long-sober and in a stable relationship for 30 years. Between the covers here we see the less salubrious early years, when Nicca was sexually abused by a step brother, plunged into the grunge rock scene which evolved into her own early alcoholism and drug abuse, to the point of turning tricks for cocaine.<\/p>\n

\"rebel\"<\/a>It\u2019s frank, and not pretty, but it\u2019s not a narrative onslaught as Nicca tells the tale in kaleidoscopic fashion, largely unmoored from any linear chronology, ricocheting between her story, Nick\u2019s or Betty\u2019s.<\/p>\n

Mostly it\u2019s a search for the father she barely knew: Nicca did scores of interviews with the onlookers\u2014one is tempted to say the survivors\u2014and it tends to give a, well, wide-screen look at the entire cast of characters.<\/p>\n

Of her father she writes: \u201cI\u2019m not defending his tormented and sometimes cruel character. God, I used to hate it when people would describe him as tormented. It was a way his admirers absolved him from having to take responsibility for his actions. He was, though, a man riddled with torment who lashed out at those he loved with crushing results.\u201d<\/p>\n

If she doesn\u2019t defend her father, she doesn\u2019t condemn him, either. She lays out the facts and opinions she\u2019s uncovered, tells her own tale, and lets readers pick through the crushing results as they will.<\/p>\n

May 20, 2020<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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