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Have you ever heard of a pattern interrupt? Your former weirdness may form an avenue to take you from a Misfit to Magnet — unlocking your unique success.
What made you feel different as a kid? Maybe it was an unusual hobby, an obsession with a topic no one else cared about, or a personality trait that didn’t quite fit in with the crowd. Whatever it was, you probably got labeled “weird” or “quirky.” Yet, these “Pattern Interrupts” – those unique aspects of ourselves that break the mold – can often hold the keys to our greatest success. When embraced, they can turn into a powerful magnet for opportunities, drawing people who appreciate our individuality and paving the way for a fulfilling, authentic life.
Steve Jobs famously said, “Here’s to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in the square holes…because the ones who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do.” What makes you different is not something to hide or downplay; it’s your gateway to success. It’s not just that the “weird” parts of you are unique – it’s that they’re the very parts that resonate deeply with others and attract opportunities you might otherwise miss. Think of every influential creator, leader, or artist; they leaned into their uniqueness, letting their “Pattern Interrupts” become their guiding lights.
Imagine you have a deep passion for collecting rare vinyl records or an unquenchable curiosity for studying ancient history. As a child, those interests might have set you apart, perhaps even isolated you, but as an adult, they become fascinating. When you’re fully in touch with these interests, they start to shine out of you. People notice – and, more importantly, they remember. You become memorable, someone others are drawn to because you offer something different. People seek out the energy and perspective that come from a life lived authentically, and soon, you find yourself connecting with others who value and appreciate the very quirks that once felt isolating.
One key example is Elon Musk, who as a young boy was absorbed in books and fantasy worlds, often ridiculed by peers. Today, his visionary ideas in space exploration and energy seem eccentric but are transforming industries. Musk embraced what made him different, creating companies that reflect his childhood dreams. “When something is important enough, you do it even if the odds are not in your favor,” he has said. His drive to stay true to his vision, even when others couldn’t see it, allowed him to harness his unique way of thinking. What was once a “weird” fascination with space and science fiction became a foundation for groundbreaking innovation.
But recognizing and embracing your Pattern Interrupts isn’t always easy. It requires courage to push through years of conditioning that taught you to fit in, to soften your edges. Society is often quick to tell us what’s “normal” or “acceptable,” but real fulfillment and success come when we break away from those norms. As Brené Brown, a researcher on vulnerability, says, “Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It’s about the choice to show up and be real.” Embracing your Pattern Interrupts is a choice you make every day to honor your true self rather than succumbing to external expectations.
To fully embrace your Pattern Interrupts, start by identifying them. What are those things about yourself that you’ve downplayed or kept hidden? Are there passions or hobbies you’ve set aside because they didn’t fit in with your “adult” image? These elements are gold – they’re the building blocks of your individuality. Once you identify them, practice bringing them into your daily life. This could mean sharing your passion with others, joining groups of like-minded individuals, or simply allowing yourself to indulge in these interests without judgment.
Recognize that these Pattern Interrupts are not just personality quirks; they’re the very traits that align you with your purpose. By embracing them fully, you send a signal to the world that you’re unapologetically yourself. Opportunities naturally start to flow toward you because people are drawn to that kind of energy – the energy of someone who isn’t afraid to stand out. The world craves originality, and by stepping into your true self, you become a magnet for possibilities that match your authenticity.
So, ask yourself: What are my Pattern Interrupts? How can I wear them proudly? You don’t have to be someone else to find success or happiness; you simply have to be more of who you already are. Embrace the weirdness, the quirks, the unexpected – these are the gifts that set you apart. As Oscar Wilde once put it, “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” In letting your Pattern Interrupts shine, you not only become unforgettable but also open the door to a life filled with meaning, purpose, and unanticipated success.
Bob Fagan has just published “The Little Book of Questions That Matter — A Lifetime Companion For Transforming Your Life.” It is available on Amazon.